If you follow me on Twitter (@thesumoguy) you’ll know I love quotes. I find this one from Elbert Hubbard particularly helpful:
‘To avoid criticism, do nothing, say nothing and be nothing.’
Given the above perhaps I should take it as a compliment that I’ve experienced my fair share of criticism over the last few years.
My problem is that despite years of practice I’ve still yet to develop a thick skin to criticism. It isn’t like water off a duck’s back to me. Is that something you can relate to at all?
And I would love to say hearing the phrase ‘constructive criticism’ makes the pill much easier to swallow.
But in all honesty…
So what’s the alternative for you and me?
Well you could try and avoid criticism at all costs by doing all you can to be a continual people pleaser.
You could do nothing, say nothing and be nothing, or you could simply choose to ignore criticism no matter how valid it might be.
They’re not exactly great alternatives are they?
You could, however, take some time to reflect on the following:
- What were the other person’s motives for criticising me? (To make themselves look good or to help you become even better?)
- What part of the criticism (if any) could I agree with and possibly learn from?
- Am I listening to understand or listening to defend?
Doing the above is not easy. Not for me anyway. But within the criticism could be a nugget of truth or an insight that could prove invaluable.
OK the medicine might not always taste nice, but it could make you better. Just be careful you’re taking the right medicine, from someone you trust and respect.
Until next time
Hope SUMO makes a difference.
The SUMO Guy