A friend once said to me, ‘I don’t know why people moan – it never changes anything.’
I was inclined to agree. Whilst having a moan can help get things off your chest, perpetual moaning without actually ever taking action never results in any change.
And on one level I still believe that.
But I’ve also come to realise this.
Continual moaning does change something extremely significant.
It changes you.
You see, what I think and talk about on a regular basis will affect how I feel. That’s why recalling a positive memory from the past can cheer you up in the present.
Likewise, thinking and talking about something negative will also affect you.
The reality is that in some cases we can be the biggest sources of our own misery. And all because of what we choose to think and talk about.
And moaning doesn’t just change you. It can affect those around you – the people you live and work with.
We’ve become aware of the dangers of passive smoking, but be aware we can equally be affected by passive moaning.
So a good old moan occasionally is probably healthy and helpful. But when it becomes a daily habit you’re not just damaging yourself, but others around you too.
Until next time.
The SUMO Guy